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Life Lately • Stress & Keeping Grounded


There's that evening every once in a while where I just want to chuck everything down and just blog. Okay, is that a sign if a blogger? Anyway, I get myself to a point where I want to write and explain everything, usually crying my way through it and listening to songs that definitely improves my mood; currently that's Shayne Ward 'The Way You Were' and yes I know he's a bit outdated and a person who you'll think 'who?' (he's Aiden in Corrie if it helps!) but it's very catchy and I can't help turn into a pop star when listening to it belting out the lyrics and like when you're in that mood all the lyrics somehow fit into your life perfectly - if you've not listened to it before, listen and to El, I know you'll read this, but I'll pretend I hate him for the sake of our mutual agreement to do so but actually I kinda love him and listen to him in secret - oops!

I've got to that stage where I'm feeling I'm not doing too great at all areas of my life at the moment, and this is something that doesn't resonate well with my inner self. I'm naturally one to put my all into doing the best I can and achieve it with all my determination behind me but, just recently I've been feeling so much pressure to keep everything going and balancing. I've been juggling my assignments, family, housework and this blog it feels like I've been dipping my toes in all sections but not really completely immersing myself, enjoying the journey as much as I should and this has been hard because they all deserve all my attention, but I've been flicking between what's needed me the most at the time. Now, I will say that I've had so much support in all areas and it's more of a in my head 'me' issue and I think sometimes that's the hardest thing because from the outside you can look very different to how you're really thinking.. 
I'm not one to ever feel particularly stressed with things in life, it's usually Chris and I'm the one to say 'It'll be fine, we'll be fine - it always is in the end!' and I think I have needed to listen to my own words as of late because the pressure of doing the best I can with everything has been bothering me; my sleep has been horrendous as of the last couple of weeks as things have been building up. 


My assignments have been very time consuming, especially this one that is due on Thursday and wanting to do the best, puts unfold pressure on myself to make it sound how I envision it and this week has shown me that I don't work very well under pressure, it stresses me and takes over my mind - I had to take a couple of days off to clear my mind and somehow the questions all made sense and I've done more in the last couple of days than all month, typically! I still have plenty more to do and it does affect how I fit everything else in, as my house is more upside down and unorganised than usual - the fact there's dust on my bedroom window sills really irritates me, yet somehow haven't found the time to deal with it (I don't know either). My poor Nan has been in hospital as of late and the worry of how she is, has been bubbling - thankfully a bit better than she was a couple of weeks ago but we shall see how it goes. Money has been bothering me too as Chris's work has been told to cut down staff's hours and that has hit us really hard, especially on the run up to Christmas. You may have noticed that I've been quiet on this blog, not really uploading any decent content. This has been weighing on my mind a lot recently and I hate it because it's one of my big loves in my life - it's a place where I can just blurt out and it feels good, I can waffle and it doesn't really matter. I've come to accept that it may not be the best written or the most interesting, people may not relate or connect and that's fine because there are a thousand out there that are much more gripping (I read them too!!). I've come to realise that you can't compare yourself, because your story is different, we think differently and we all have a different ending. 


My boys are the only things that have kept me grounded with life recently, that one kiss, funny moment or little snuggle has helped me stop and breathe for that second releasing that ache in my shoulders. I very often wonder what I'd do without them because they're just little beauties that bring that flicker of a smile in the hardest times. They've made me laugh on many occasions this week, through their dramatic moments - shouting and bursting into tears over what to us would be the most insignificant things. Oh how glad I am that the only thing that ruins their day is the fact a pencil has been taken away from them or that their finger feels a little sore (if you follow me on Instagram, you'll know about this day!). It's quite beautiful to see children be children - I'll take all the stress if it means not shouldering them with any misery in the bigger world.

I have to continuously remind myself that stresses are there to prepare us and to keep us in check to be able to enjoy the simple times; to soak them up and feel utter bliss. I'm looking forward to that time once again, but I guess in the meantime I'll keep going and protecting what's precious.

What helps keep you grounded when you're stressed?

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8 comments:

  1. I'm like you, it is my kids that keep me grounded, too. I know all too well the feeling of juggling blog work, home, family, assignments (I've one due now and I'm struggling to get my head into it) so I can totally relate. I'm trying to get ahead so I can enjoy the countdown and Christmas break, too - all adds to the pressure, doesn't it?! We'll get there x Thanks for sharing with #WotW

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    1. The boys help no end when I'm having a tough time, it's their innocence isn't it? I wish they could keep it forever! Yes I'm the same, I can't wait to get this assignment over so that I can just get myself into the Christmas mood and just relax just a little more! Wishing you luck - I'm sure we'll do fine :) xx

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  2. oh - i Just wanted to reach through and give you a hug! This is very similar to how I felt in January and so I just stopped. Took a deep breath and then started to realise that actually there were a number of things I did not need to be "perfect" at. Instead of doing more, I did less. ~I would love to say I managed to get those around me to realise that actually they needed to do more but that took a lot longer! but you know baby steps!

    Now, if I have some time when I don't blog (and it is usually daily) I don't stress about it after all it is about my/our life, about being a Mum, about being a female in a society that tells us all the time we should be doing it all and looking glamorous while doing it...... ummm no.

    We are just awesome - plain and simple - with or without makeup, with or without a pristine house, with or without everything organised because there is no other situation in life where you juggle more, love more, work more, sleep less, get paid less, get supported less than this. Where you push yourself more, give yourself a hard time more!

    So, really we have to take a step back and say WOW look at what I do do, if your child has smiled even once today you have helped with that, if they went to the toilet, if they said please, if they hugged their brother/sister etc... etc... that is all down to your love, encouragement and being a Mum and although you may not always get comments you will have made someone else feel "normal" or laugh from one of your blog posts and that is amazing xxx (slightly long winded response!) #mumtofivegirls

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    1. Aww this is a lovely comment, thank you Traci! It definitely is something I struggle with, not putting pressure on myself - I always do and it's not good because I know deep down that you can't do more if you're already in the deep end but us mums want to try eh? My assignment has been sent off and that has released a lot of stress, I'm feeling a little more normal myself :) credit to you for blogging nearly every day with 5 children! Wow!! Xxx

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    2. Well to be fair it is four at the mo until March and then I am sure I will remember that it is nigh on impossible to do anything when you have a newborn except feed, I am just conveniently ignoring (perhaps blocking) that from my mind ;-) xxx

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    3. That's quite amazing having 4 though Traci! I couldn't imagine that many - I'd be tearing my hair out haha! Aw, can't wait to see your newborn - your other girls are adorable! X

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  3. Oh my goodness, I could have written this myself! I always put such pressure on myself to do everything well, and usually take on far too much. It sounds like you need to take a step back, have a night off if you can and come back to everything with a fresh head. And if all else fails, spend some time with your boys, as that really helps to refocus on the important things in life. I hope your nan is better soon lovely xx

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    1. It's really horrible pitting pressure on yourself isn't it? It really frustrates me as it's my own doing haha.
      Thank you for your lovely comment, I feel much better now about things. 1 day at a time I think works wonders :) xx

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