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It appears he's at that age..?

Hello again!

As you may have figured I have a young son, Freddie. I do adore my little lad but lately I've been at the brutal end of his 'attitude' - I don't know if this is the right term but it sometimes feels like I'm battling it out with a mini-teenager! (I'm sure many of you know what I mean by that statement!)
I always felt so lucky to think and to be able to say that I've never had to deal with 'the terrible two's', even though he's not 3 yet.. maybe we've got it just starting. We don't tend to have troubles with tantrums (thank heavens!) but just snippy comments.
For example yesterday Chris took Freddie to nursery as it was on the way to work. I told Freddie I will collect him at the end of the session where we will come home and have some lunch. He was completely fine with the arrangement and happily got his bag up together and coat on, then proceeded leaving with Daddy. However once I got there to collect him at the end of the session, I was waiting in the cloakroom and the children came out, I greeted him in the usual matter of asking if he was okay and if he's had a nice time, only to be frowned at and told 'Why are you here? I don't want you here, go home, I want Daddy!' *sad face*
I have to say I was grateful that the cloakroom was full and busy with other parents getting their child's coats and bags on; because it felt pretty embarrassing to some degree and well I hope that if any parent overheard what he said, that they didn't wonder why he said that.. But once we've left the building and got to the traffic lights (his favourite part of the walk there and back!) he was completely fine and talked to me as he normally does. I put it down to not understanding why Daddy dropped him off and why I'm collecting him and that he may be a little tired and in need of a small nap!
We got home, had lunch and I then suggested he may need to go and have a little nap, as he looked and seemed really tired (stroking his favourite toy and sucking on a dummy gives it away!) and out came the comments again 'No, I don't need to go to sleep. I don't want to have a nap. I am fine. I don't want to go upstairs. I don't like you! I won't go' - I got down to his level and explained quietly why I felt he needed to have a sleep and talked of all the things he could do once he woke up.. This helped a small amount. I picked him up and gave him a cuddle and said 'shall we have a sleep?' I got a small 'No' but carried him upstairs anyhow. I laid him in bed and stroked his face and he shut his eyes - he finally let in! I know they get so they think they know what they need and are capable of, but really they are still our babies who need every bit of love and attention as newborns. They forget we know them better than they do themselves ;)

I know all this is considered 'normal' and part of their growing up. I love that he has an opinion and a voice on every matter of everything - it helps us understand things from his perspective. I always ask questions to the things he says so maybe that has helped to avoid so many outbursts. The thing that's hardest is trying to explain big world things into context that they will understand. And if I'm right in reading from all these self help guides that that's what brings on a tantrum? Luckily that hasn't been too much of a problem for us.. up to date! Now, I guess what this post was about was asking if, this is what they consider a tantrum?


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Onto what will seem happier news! Freddie brought home his progress folder (everything he's been up to since he started Nursery in September) and it was fantastic to read what he's been doing and what he's really like with the other children. It seemed very positive! It was also lovely to read and look at the stuff he made, that at the time of them bringing it home you wondered 'what's that?'.. I guess to connect the dots, because he rarely mentions the stuff they've been doing at Nursery, only odd words.Or 'playing with toys' and snack time. (Is it just Freddie that does this?) But have to say it makes me feel so proud when I read what he did back then and what he's capable of doing now! :) Makes you realise how far they come in such a short amount of time.

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